If you have recently become engaged, our congratulations! If you’re thinking of getting married in church, then we hope the following details will be helpful.
What does it mean to get married in church?
Getting married in church does not necessarily imply a firm commitment to Christian faith, or any particular beliefs about God. It does however mean that you accept the Christian view of marriage, and are intending to follow it.
The Christian view of marriage is expressed in the words of the marriage service, and we recommend therefore that you read through the service, and make sure you both agree that this is the view of marriage that you hold, and that you are prepared to commit yourselves to following it together. Most couples are pleased to find that the marriage service expresses very much what they want to say to each other, and the commitment they want to make to each other.
Getting married in church also gives an opportunity for your families and friends to express their support for you, and that support is shown in the prayers we pray for you during the marriage service.
If one of you has a permanent address in the Parish or a strong family connection, you can be married by the reading of banns. This takes place during the 10.30am service on three consecutive Sundays on dates we agree with you, about a month or two before the Wedding.
If neither of you is resident or has a strong family connection in the Parish, depending on your circumstances, you may be able to get married either by Special Licence, or by attending worship regularly for six months, and joining the church electoral roll.
We will normally meet twice. At your first meeting, you will be asked to fill in a form, which gives us the information we need for the registers. As the registers are legal documents, it is important that this information is accurate.
We will also talk about the service and start to think about the details. At our second meeting, we will confirm the details, and will then arrange the rehearsal, which normally takes place during the week before the Wedding.
In addition, we also offer a Marriage Preparation Day, which takes place at All Saints, Faringdon on a Sunday some time in the new year. The day begins with the 10.30 morning service, and includes a buffet lunch, ending at about 3.45pm. This is entirely optional, but most couples enjoy it and find it very worthwhile – and it’s all free!
Assuming you wish to use the organ, you need to contact the church organist to discuss your choice of hymns and the music for coming in and going out and for during the signing of the registers. We normally have two to four hymns.
If you would like, the church Flower Guild will be happy to arrange flowers for you, and will ask only for the cost of the flowers, and a donation to the church for their work. Alternatively, you may choose to make your own arrangements.
You are invited to choose your readings for the service. There should be at least one reading from the Bible; in addition, you may have other readings or poems either from the Bible or from other sources.
There are some other options in the service – in particular which form of the Preface and of the vows, and the overall order.
We are delighted that you want to get married in church, and are pleased to welcome you to All Saints’ Church.
How do we arrange a Wedding Service?
To make a booking, contact the Church Administrator.